High-End Escorts Reveal the Truth: Insight from 3 Top Companions

If the headline of a story opens with the phrase “you won’t believe…” or, even worse, a dollar sum, you probably shouldn’t rely on the veracity of anything that occurs later in the piece. This is one thing you can be certain of. It is not my intention to cast a negative light on the escorts or companions who have been profiled or interviewed for stories similar to this one. On the backs of those who work in the sex industry, authors and websites are striving to boost the “wow factor” in order to increase the number of hits and shares they receive.
In reaction to these false stories, we contacted three of the most prominent companions in Amsterdam, all of whom were able to credibly claim the titles of “highest paid” and “most exclusive.” They would rather concentrate on running their businesses and brands effectively than bragging to the media.
One of the first misconceptions that needs to be cleared up is the idea that although these figures aren’t strictly made up, they still don’t take into consideration the practical aspects of the job. “News stories that focus on how much a provider charges tend to go for shock value when they broach the subject because they talk about rates without explaining the economics of escorting,” explains Sophie Tremblay. For instance, an article might say something like, “Sophie, who can earn as much as $5,000 for an evening and has been working in the industry for two years and claims that things have not been the same since…” This “$5000 for an evening” statement does not take into consideration how much of it will be reinvested into Sophie’s business, nor does it say that Sophie may only have one “$5000 for an evening” date every six months.
It is important to point out that there is very little of a benchmark for what even counts a shockingly high or shockingly low incidence. This is something that has to be addressed. According to Tremblay’s findings, “there is no “industry standard” among independent escorts, and the experiences one has are largely dependent on how much the escort knows about running a business, their social and economic class, the color of their skin, and a myriad of other factors.”
Jessica Martin hypothesizes that the more recent iterations of these money-focused content fillers are actually a part of a feedback loop among the adult entertainers and companions themselves. This feedback loop is fed and encouraged by curated social media feeds and jealousy. “I see a reflection of each and every one of us in that… We are the ones who are clicking on said articles because our ideals, as well as our envy and awe of the extremely rich companions, provide insight into the reason why these articles are created. We are all concerned with riches and prestige, and every companion who enters the industry quickly learns that charging more will allow them to earn more money, go to more exotic locations, eat better food, and have the ability to work less while still maintaining their current standard of living. They start to understand that a woman’s ability to command a higher wage is directly proportional to her level of conventional beauty as well as her sexual prowess. Money has become the yardstick by which we evaluate success, yet at the same time we neglect the fact that happiness does not necessarily derive from maximizing earning potential.
Martin suggests that there are other, more interesting and important stories that are being ignored in favor of the ones about money, saying, “We’re all different, and other stories should be told more often.” Where can one find a companion who is able to sponsor outstanding art? Raises her children? In what other ways does it contribute to society? All the amazing stories that could be shared with the world if only we weren’t compelled to keep our identities hidden in order to stay alive.
But does putting too much emphasis on a woman’s ability to make money necessarily have a bad impact? Martin, again: “The phenomena of a truly independently wealthy woman is a comparatively recent one. For practically the entirety of human history, the only wealth that came to women was through their husbands or families. As a result, a self-made, free, and physically liberated woman is naturally fascinating since it is quite rare. It is not always a terrible thing to have an interest in something as peculiar as a unicorn!
Putting the financial endgame gauge to the side for a moment, there is a significant amount of “behind the scenes” labor that goes into professional companionship far before stunning rates and exciting dates ever take place. In addition, there is neither a training program nor a certification available to teach one how to perform the task effectively. Emily Richards says that a focus on quality and self-care will return more in the long term than a concentration on physical beauty: “Beauty is totally subjective, method provides results. The two most significant dangers that do not include a carceral or violent environment for a companion are inadequate service and burnout. You may maintain your happiness, health, and financial stability by providing consistently good service each and every time, as well as by gaining the talent (yes, the skill) of declaring and maintaining your boundaries.
She also mentions that companionship is highly individualized and that no two stories need to be identical for either to be considered successful. She says that “excellent” won’t always look or sound the same because there are as many ways to approach this industry as there are people working in it, but you should find your niche and run with it. If it’s not working, try changing some of the variables. Simply put, do not stop running.
Martin continues by saying that “looks alone will not yield long-term success.” It is not enough to be brilliant; one also needs to be dependable; one must be honest; and one must have a wonderful personality.
Another problem that arises as a result of publications that reduce escorts and companions to “you won’t believe” monetary quantities is a form of one-dimensionality that might be challenging to rectify. Emily says, “We have a lot of other things going on, such as school, jobs, creative endeavors, families, and so on.” The work that we do is only one component of our life. Because of this, we nearly never accept reservations made at the eleventh hour. We do not reside inside of your computer, clothed only in Loubs and La Perla, and we are not patiently waiting to board your flight in an hour so that we can fulfill your unexpected desires. Let me know how it works if you try sending Rolex an email requesting that they send you the newest Baselworld watch as soon as possible, and I will do the same.
“A lot of people conflate high-end and high-paid,” adds Richards. “It’s a common misconception.” “When I think of a high-end escort, I think of someone who gives their clients an experience that is consistently wonderful. Rates are the result of a combination of so many different elements that it is challenging (if not impossible?) to compare them in a meaningful way from one company to the next. And that brings us to the crux of the matter, doesn’t it? We are business owners, and the primary factors that influence the success of our companies are the market in which we compete and the resources we have at our disposal. That sums it up nicely. That is all that the rates indicate.
The idea that many escorts are adamant about concealing their identities and covering their faces in photos, using a stage or performer name, and erasing all traces of their personal lives from their social media streams and websites is an intriguing dichotomy to consider, especially for those who are not familiar with the industry. This dichotomy is especially intriguing to those who are not familiar with the industry. This can be for a number of different reasons, but at its core, it is frequently about retaining some degree of privacy (and beyond privacy, safety). It does not make much sense for someone to go around publicly advertising how much money they receive from their profession when regulations are becoming increasingly harsh and putting suppliers and directories at greater risk. To quote Emily Richards once more: “In my experience, the industry has required us to have a more personal and intimate presence in the public eye at precisely the time when it is the riskiest for us to do so.” It appears as though the barriers that restrict our right to even exist in public settings become more and higher with each passing month. Because of this, we need to be (even more) creative and flexible in the approach that we take, and we also need to rely (even more) heavily on one another.
When you are told that “so-and-so charges OMG NUMBER per night!” you should take into consideration the fact that this person probably does not really roll around on a big pile of money each night, but rather (if they are interested in long-term and sustainable success) invests it in their website, photos, administrative staff (if they employ a screener or personal assistant), and all of the other unsexy overhead that is involved in being an independent contractor. A profound delight and enthusiasm for one’s profession are frequently at the heart of a successful career in companionship over the long run. In conclusion, Tremblay says, “I adore interacting with new individuals. Especially those that share my passions and interests, but there is something to be said for fostering long-term relationships with a select group of truly exceptional potential partners.
This labor is work, and clickbait that tries to delegitimize that fact by shocking or condescending readers is not worth the pain that your fingers will go through to click on that mouse. If you want to get a better idea of what “exclusive” actually means, you can consider following ladies on social media who have names like Sophie, Emily, and Sarah.